Are You Good Enough to Lead Your Kids Spiritually?


I feel like I’m not good enough to lead my kids spiritually.

Has that thought ever crossed your mind? Certainly, we all want what’s best for our children. Even more so when it comes to their spiritual life.

Yet, it’s common to struggle along the way.

In this post, we’ll address a common fear many parents face: I’m not good enough to lead my kids spiritually.

Are You Good Enough to Lead Your Kids Spiritually?

It’s not uncommon to feel less than adequate when it comes to providing spiritual leadership at home. You may think, “Who am I to lead them when I’m far from perfect?”

But don’t write yourself off yet.

Let’s see what the Scriptures have to say.


This saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance: “Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners”—and I am the worst of them.

(1 Timothy 1:15, CSB)

Do you know who wrote that?

The apostle Paul.

That’s the same guy who wrote thirteen of the twenty-seven books in your New Testament.

Who is the worst sinner ever? Paul says, “That’s me. I’m the worst sinner of all.”

Does that surprise you? It shouldn’t. Because the truth is, we’re all sinners saved by grace.

We’re all sinners saved by grace.

Simply put, your moral authority doesn’t come from being the perfect parent. If that were true, you wouldn’t have a leg to stand on. None of us would.

Instead, it comes from your right relationship with God based on faith in Jesus.

You don’t have to be perfect to provide spiritual leadership at home.

Parents make mistakes. However, it’s what we do when we makes those mistakes that makes all the difference.

What you do when you make mistakes
makes all the difference.

I remember one time I humiliated my young daughter in front of some friends we had over to the house. It was totally unintentional, and it happened so fast I didn’t even realize what was going on until it was too late.

All she was doing was drinking some cranberry juice and hanging around all the grown ups in the living room.

But our house rules said, “No drinks in the living room.”

I saw her and called out her name. Then I said something awesome like, “Are we supposed to bring juice cups into the living room?”

The problem is that I’m loud.

So, everyone heard me.

Then everyone stopped what they were doing and stared at her.

She burst into tears.

I felt like such a bad dad.

The question isn’t whether or not we will make mistakes–we will. The question is what do you do when you do make mistakes?

What You Do When You Make a Mistake Matters More than making a mistake

I brought this incident up to a counselor a couple days later, and she had some really encouraging words.

She told me I wasn’t a horrible father, and I didn’t mess my sweet girl up for life.

She described that experience as a tear in our relationship.

Everything was good.
Then something happened.
And now it’s not so good anymore.

She said that happens all the time in all sorts of relationships.

But, she said, “You have to repair the tear.”

You have to repair the tear.

She was talking about apologizing and making things right. In other words, we have to admit when we mess up and ask for forgiveness.


It’s a powerful thing for a parent to admit they’ve messed up and to ask for forgiveness.

Perhaps the best way we can influence on our kids spiritual life is by modeling for them what it looks to live out repentance.

So, don’t put yourself on the bench because you’re not a perfect person or the perfect parent.

Own your mistakes and ask for forgiveness. That’s how you make things right.

Then, keep showing your kids what it means to follow Jesus. That’s spiritual leadership. And that’s something you can do.